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Figuring out how to word your wedding invitations and save the dates can be tricky.

And when do you send everything out and to who? Sometimes it seems like too much to figure out!

Don't worry. Leveret Paperie's Wedding Invitation Wording and Etiquette Guide is here to help.

Need help figuring out how to address your envelopes? What is the traditional way of addressing a couple on a wedding invitation? What if you want to make it a bit more modern? Never fear! Below you will find various styles for how to invite all you guests to you wedding.  Just click the "How to address your envelopes" link above.

 

Depending on your style, Save the Dates can definitely be more casual than your wedding invitations.

Below are some options for wording and a few rules of thumb.

SAVE THE DATE RULES OF THUMB

When to send your Save the Dates:

Your Save the Dates should be sent about 6 months before your wedding. For destination weddings or when many of your guests will be travelling to the event, it is best to send the Save the Dates out 6 - 8 months in advance.

 

What information to include:

There are 4 essential pieces of information to include on your save the date:

1. Your Names (last names optional)

2. The Date of your Wedding

3. The City you are getting married in 

4. A mention that a "formal invitation will follow"

Usually Save the Dates also have the phrase "Save the Date" somewhere on the card itself.

Who gets save the dates:

Anyone you plan on inviting to your wedding. You will want to include everyone who's actually invited on the address itself. So if you are okay with your friend bringing a guest go ahead and include "and guest" on your envelope. 

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SAVE THE DATE WORDING IDEAS

 

Basic:

Save the Date

Jennifer and Luke

are getting married in Charlotte, NC

July 25, 2018

Formal Invitation to Follow

 

A Little More Formal:

Save the Date

of July 25, 2018

for the wedding of

Jennifer Harrington and Luke Duarte

Charlotte, North Carolina

Formal Invitation to Follow

 

Something Fun:

Save the Date

Jennifer and Luke

**are getting hitched/tying the knot/making it happen** 

in Charlotte, North Carolina

July 25, 2018

Formal Invitation to Follow

 

**basically you can spice this section up with your own phrasing**

 

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Wedding Invitations can be a bit tricky to word depending on how formal or informal you want to be, who's hosting, etc. Below you'll find examples of how to include everything you'll need for the perfect wedding invitation and also some general guidelines to follow. Worried about how to address your envelopes? Don't! We've got that covered too.

WEDDING INVITATION RULES OF THUMB

When to send your Wedding Invitations:

Your Wedding Invitations should be sent about 2-3 months before your wedding. If it is a local event, 2 months is perfectly acceptable but if you have many travelling guests it is better to send them a little earlier. 

 

When you should request your RSVPs by:

Generally RSVPs are needed for a final headcount by the venue 1 month prior to your wedding date. You will want to include an RSVP by date in your invitations and it may be good to have a little bit of buffer time in there to make sure those last minute guests have time to get theirs in. You will inevitibly have a few friends or family members who forget to RSVP. It is okay to give them a gentle email reminder or phone call if you're  running up to your venue's headcount deadline.

 

What information to include on your invitations:

There are  6 essential pieces of information to include on your wedding invitations:

1. Your Full Names 

2. The Date of your wedding

3. The Location of your wedding

4. The exact time your ceremony will begin

5. Information on when and where the reception will be (especially if at a different venue)

6. A card or information about how your guests should RSVP

 

Below is some optional information that you might want to consider:

1. An insert card that has travel, accommodation and other pertinent information

2. Your wedding website

3. Meal selections - depending on your event you may want guests to pick their meal choice when they RSVP. 

4. If you do not want to receive gifts or have a honeymoon fund you prefer to have guests give to, you will want to include that on a separate card.

5. If your event will be for adults only it is important to put a note on the invitation that indicates that.

 

Who to send your invitations to:

Anyone you plan on inviting to your wedding. You will want to include everyone who's actually invited on the address itself. So if you are okay with your friend bringing a guest go ahead and include "and guest" on your envelope.

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WEDDING INVITATION WORDING IDEAS

 

Informal with Families Hosting:

Along with their families

Jennifer Harrington

and Luke Duarte

joyfully invite you to celebrate with them as they join their lives in marriage

Saturday, July twenty-eighth, two-thousand-eighteen

at six o'clock in the evening

The Ballantyne Hotel and Lodge

10000 Ballantyne Commons Parkway • Charlotte, North Carolina

Dinner and dancing to follow

 

Informal with Bride and Groom Hosting:

It is with great joy that

Jennifer Harrington

and Luke Duarte

invite you to celebrate with them as they join their lives in marriage

Saturday, July twenty-eighth, two-thousand-eighteen

at six o'clock in the evening

The Ballantyne Hotel and Lodge

10000 Ballantyne Commons Parkway • Charlotte, North Carolina

Dinner and dancing to follow

 

Traditional Wording with Bride's Parents Hosting:

Mr. and Mrs. David Harrington request the honor of your presence

at the marriage of their daughter

Jennifer Elizabeth to

Luke Alexandar Duarte

Saturday the twenty-eighth of July, two-thousand-eighteen

at six o'clock in the evening

The Ballantyne Hotel and Lodge

10000 Ballantyne Commons Parkway • Charlotte, North Carolina

Reception to follow

 

Traditional Wording with Both Parents Hosting:

Mr. and Mrs. David Harrington request the honor of your presence

at the marriage of their daughter

Jennifer Elizabeth to

Luke Alexandar Duarte

son of Mr. and Mrs. John Duarte

Saturday the twenty-eighth of July, two-thousand-eighteen

at six o'clock in the evening

The Ballantyne Hotel and Lodge

10000 Ballantyne Commons Parkway • Charlotte, North Carolina

Reception to follow

 

Casual Wording with Bride's Parents Hosting:

Mr. and Mrs. David Harrington invite you to celebrate

the marriage of their daugther

Jennifer Elizabeth to

Luke Alexandar Duarte

Saturday the twenty-eighth of July, two-thousand-eighteen

at six o'clock in the evening

The Ballantyne Hotel and Lodge

10000 Ballantyne Commons Parkway • Charlotte, North Carolina

Drinks, Dinner and Merriment to Follow

 

Casual Wording with Both Parents Hosting:

Mr. and Mrs. David Harrington invite you to celebrate

the marriage of their daugther

Jennifer Elizabeth to

Luke Alexandar Duarte

son of Mr. and Mrs. John Duarte

Saturday the twenty-eighth of July, two-thousand-eighteen

at six o'clock in the evening

The Ballantyne Hotel and Lodge

10000 Ballantyne Commons Parkway • Charlotte, North Carolina

Drinks, Dinner and Merriment to Follow

 

Wording options for Unmarried Parents Hosting:

Mr. David Harrington and Mrs. Eliza Sanders

joyfully invite you to the marriage of their daugther

Jennifer Elizabeth to

Luke Alexandar Duarte

Son of Mr. John Duarte and Ms. Deborah Lind

Saturday the twenty-eighth of July, two-thousand-eighteen

at six o'clock in the evening

The Ballantyne Hotel and Lodge

10000 Ballantyne Commons Parkway • Charlotte, North Carolina

Drinks, Dinner and Merriment to Follow

 

***Please Note: These are some great examples of how you can word your invitation. Of course, you can change up the words and mix and match styles as much as you like. This is your wedding, so you get to choose what the wording of your invitations will say.

If you are having a more formal event, the traditional wording is the most commonly accepted wording.

REPLY CARD WORDING IDEAS

 

Kindly Reply by June 25th

M_____________________________________

___ Can't wait to be there

___ Will celebrate from afar

Please initial your meal choice(s):

___Chicken  ___Steak  ___Vegetarian

 

RSVP

_____________________________________

(names)

___ Accepts with pleasure

___ Regretfully declines

Kindly reply by June 25th

 

Other Yes/No Reply options:

Excited to be there/Will be there in spirit

Dancing shoes packed!/Sadly, can't make it

Wouldn't miss it!/Sad to not make it

Will be there/Can't make it

 

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Whether you go the formal or informal route, you need to include each person you want to invite on your envelopes.

WAYS TO ADDRESS YOUR ENVELOPES

 

Married couple traditional:

Mr. and Mrs. Logan Hunt

223 Round Rock Way

Charlotte, North Carolina 28810

 

Married couple modern:

Mr. & Mrs. Logan and Sandy Hunt

223 Round Rock Way

Charlotte, North Carolina 28810

 

Two Married Doctors:

Doctors Logan and Sandy Hunt

223 Round Rock Way

Charlotte, North Carolina 28810

 

Married couple with two last names:

Mr. Logan Hunt and Mrs. Sandy Lewis

223 Round Rock Way

Charlotte, North Carolina 28810

Married same sex couple (same last name):

Mr. and Mr. David and Mark Lindley

223 Round Rock Way

Charlotte, North Carolina 28810

Married same sex couple with two last names:

Ms. Leigh Peters and Ms. Darcy Ward

223 Round Rock Way

Charlotte, North Carolina 28810

Note: Keep names all on one line for a married couple.

You can put either name first, but if you can't decide then do it alphabetically.

 

Single Person:

Ms. Dina Landon

152 Leawood Court

Apartment 23A

Charlotte, North Carolina 28802

 

Person with Guest (unknown name):

Ms. Dina Landon and Guest

152 Leawood Court

Apartment 23A

Charlotte, North Carolina 28802

 

Person with Guest (specific person):

Ms. Dina Landon and Mr. Preston Cooper

152 Leawood Court

Apartment 23A

Charlotte, North Carolina 28802

 

Family with Children's Names Included:

Mr. and Mrs. Logan Hunt

Daniel, Miss Madison and  Miss Grace-Ann

223 Round Rock Way

Charlotte, North Carolina 28810

 

Family Option 1 (more traditional):

Mr. and Mrs. Logan Hunt and Family

223 Round Rock Way

Charlotte, North Carolina 28810

 

Family Option 2 (more modern):

The Hunt Family

223 Round Rock Way

Charlotte, North Carolina 28810

 

Other Potential Titles:

The Honorable Logan and Mrs. Sandy Hunt

Captain Logan Hunt, U.S. Navy and Judge Sandy Hunt

Lieutenant Logan Hunt and Doctor Sandy Hunt

 

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